What is a Blended Family?

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You'll have a stepfamily when one or both of parents get remarried. It is also called blended family because people from two houses get mixed, stirred and blended into one.

Being in a blended family is hard. There are several problems and issues that only blended families face. A few of these are:
  • Extended families do not always accept the new spouse or the step children.
  • Both parent and stepparent do not treat children in the blended family equally.
  • Many stepparents have difficulty in loving their stepchild or stepchildren.
  • The children are not accepting the new "parental authority" in the home.
  • The new home has two sets of rules, and two types of discipline.
  • Discipline from a stepparent usually results in frustration, opposition, and disrespect.
  • Children have two homes, with two sets of rules and different methods of discipline.

Expert say that it can take more than two years for blended families to settle and be blended into life together. Combining two families into one is a real challenge!

Blending a family is a journey. Taking and applying God's promises seriuosly helps blended family walk into the path of victory. Jeremiah 29:11 says: "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

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